The year is 2021 and no one saw any of these events coming. We’re all feeling it. I think a good indicator of our collective mental health suffering was the number of people who broke down to Steve Burns’s latest Blues Clues video.
If ya know, ya know.
I’ve asked Cody a few times now if he felt like this was how our parents felt while they were raising us. The optimistic side of me wants to believe that every generation of parents thinks the whole world is ending and that things are at their worst. But it honestly doesn’t feel that way.
Every day I say that I’m not going to watch the news today because it makes me nervous and scared and I’m tired of being in that emotional prison. But the news is impossible to ignore these days and I don’t think it should be ignored either. Everything these last few years has been about hatred and division and I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop.
It feels like we’ve gone through the Great Depression so can we please have the Roaring 20’s era back?
I’m writing this blog post this week because I knew I needed a mental health check and a place to vent so I want to share with you some things that help chill me out in hopes that they work for you too. They’re small things that can make the world of difference in the long run.
Here are a few of my favorite things:
1. Pumpkin everything.
If you’re anything like me, Fall is my happy place. I love fall fashion, fall weather, and fall food! The fact that my favorite holiday, Halloween, is also in Fall is just an added bonus. So treat yourself because pumpkin might as well be an essential oil. It calms me right down in ways that feel like magic. Every night since the first of September I have lit pumpkin candles all over the house, popped open an apple cider beer, and eaten (at least one) slice of pumpkin pie. “Hot girl summer” is gone and it’s “do what you gotta do to survive” season.
I’ve switched out all the air fresheners and hand soaps to smell like pumpkin and I’m creating my own happiness over here! And yes, I’ve already bought real pumpkins because the smell and taste aren’t enough.
I probably just lost half of my readers because you’ve written me off as crazy and I understand your concern but I’m 30 and there’s no changing me now.
2. Sitting in absolute silence.
When you’re around noise 24/7, with children pulling you in every direction, sitting in absolute silence is the equivalent of someone handing you a glass of ice-cold water after days in the desert.
Right now, I’m sitting in rare silence to write this blog post and it feels as though someone gave my ears a pumpkin spice latte.
(As I finished that sentence Maverick slammed her bedroom door louder than any door has ever been slammed. Silence over.)
3. Jamming out on a long car ride.
Usually, during car rides, I like to listen to an audiobook or catch up on my favorite podcast but I decided to take a break from that and just turn on some tunes. There’s nothing better than screaming, not singing, your favorite song on repeat at the start of your day!
I’m not a singer by any means but that has and never will stop me from doing it because it’s like taking a happy pill. Doubt me? Try it on your commute to work tomorrow and just try to tell me I’m wrong.
4. CBD makes me zen
Cody and I went through a phase a few years ago where we ordered CBD oil from a bunch of different brands to see what we liked. I found some amazing gummies that helped me sleep but nothing that helped me during the day. I started seeing some influencers posting about Equilibria and decided to try it and I’m a big advocate now. You might be looking to feel something when you’re taking CBD but I think you should pay more attention to what you’re not feeling and what I wasn’t feeling was deep-rooted stress. If I’m feeling overwhelmed and anxious, which is every day in our global climate, I take Equilibira’s CBD oil. I put one full dropper under my tongue for one minute and then swallow. Within 20 minutes, I’m not thinking about my child who’s taken their 4th poop of the day or the fact that we’re on the verge of a Third World War. I’m back to feeling positive and confident in handling any task that is presented.
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5. Flowers, peonies, and palm trees, oh my!
Flowers make me happy. Very specially, calla lilies or fresh peonies. Even fresh lavender or eucalyptus. Having fresh flowers in our house makes me feel hopeful. I can’t explain why, they just do.
It’s palm trees for Cody and really, me too. Before I moved to LA, I used to text my friend who lived there and ask every day for them to send me a photo of a palm tree. We really love palms in our house so I bought portraits of them, some small fake ones and we even plan on planting some in the backyard. When you find something that makes you breathe a little deeper, you have to have it in your life.
Okay. This definitely isn’t a cheap or easy dopamine kick but if you’re a Disney person, it’s one of the best highs in life. I cry when I go to Disney. Like straight-up pageant girl tears. I grew up going and have never stopped and when I’m old and rolling myself around in a wheelchair, I’ll still be at Disney.
If you can afford it and if you can find the time, go to the happiest place on earth and hit restart.